Comments on: What I Learned As A Mommy, From A Broken Doll http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/2009/10/12/what-i-learned-as-a-mommy-from-a-broken-doll/ Bellaziza's Favorite Things - For the family who has everything but deserves more! Thu, 21 Oct 2010 18:46:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: chantelgawthorp http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/2009/10/12/what-i-learned-as-a-mommy-from-a-broken-doll/comment-page-1/#comment-28132 chantelgawthorp Wed, 14 Oct 2009 00:59:27 +0000 http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/?p=3848#comment-28132 Well you definitely touched my heart on this one, from a personal experience! I think it's very common, trying to do what we think is best. It's great to be able to see your children interact with something that is nice enough that their children could potentially play with one day. Instead of storing these playful memories away.<br> I like to buy nice toys for my little ones for this reason. In hopes that the toys will hold up well through there imaginative playing years, so my children will have something to give there own children along with the stories. Well you definitely touched my heart on this one, from a personal experience! I think it's very common, trying to do what we think is best. It's great to be able to see your children interact with something that is nice enough that their children could potentially play with one day. Instead of storing these playful memories away.
I like to buy nice toys for my little ones for this reason. In hopes that the toys will hold up well through there imaginative playing years, so my children will have something to give there own children along with the stories.

]]> By: bellaziza http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/2009/10/12/what-i-learned-as-a-mommy-from-a-broken-doll/comment-page-1/#comment-28121 bellaziza Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:40:48 +0000 http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/?p=3848#comment-28121 Hi Mom:)!<br><br>Glad to see you read my site!! I guess I don't remember playing with them as much as you say that I did. I do understand not wanting to iron all of the little clothes too, but I think that may be what I'm trying to say. I want to be the kind of mom who engages with her kids more and worries about messes and ironing doll clothes a little less. You know I like things to be in perfect condition, no missing pieces, etc. I think it holds me back in ways though as a mom. Me. Speaking from my own experiences with Isabella and Camilla. <br><br>I'm glad my Madame Alexander dolls are in great shape for my girls to enjoy! We'll be by to get them soon:). Isabella's pretty excited about Cherry's new family!<br><br>Love you too!<br><br>:)Crista Hi Mom:)!

Glad to see you read my site!! I guess I don't remember playing with them as much as you say that I did. I do understand not wanting to iron all of the little clothes too, but I think that may be what I'm trying to say. I want to be the kind of mom who engages with her kids more and worries about messes and ironing doll clothes a little less. You know I like things to be in perfect condition, no missing pieces, etc. I think it holds me back in ways though as a mom. Me. Speaking from my own experiences with Isabella and Camilla.

I'm glad my Madame Alexander dolls are in great shape for my girls to enjoy! We'll be by to get them soon:). Isabella's pretty excited about Cherry's new family!

Love you too!

:) Crista

]]> By: Therese http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/2009/10/12/what-i-learned-as-a-mommy-from-a-broken-doll/comment-page-1/#comment-28116 Therese Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:17:59 +0000 http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/?p=3848#comment-28116 Hey Crista, just to let you know, that you did play with those dolls. You were very good with them! The reason that they were put up was because of many different reasons . <br><br>Not all of your little friends were good with dolls and some were destructive and maybe jealous. Sooooo we put them up to protect them. You played with them more than you remember. But not for long; you liked taking their clothes off but didn't like dressing them again. It was hard work for your little hands! You'd just walk off and leave them. Some of the dolls are in glass houses, not to keep them from you but to protect them from dust. Those little clothes are hard to wash and iron. Try ironing a little tiny weeny doll dress! I've done it, but it isn't easy. <br><br>You liked active play more than anything else. Doll play had a short time span, and blocks were more fun for you, along with our craft times. Also I babysat for 12 years so that I could be a stay at home Mom. Your father and I did not think it was a good idea that all of your toys were subject to who ever was in the house. We believed that you had some personal rights too, which you did have. Not all children are taught to take care of what they have been blessed with - good stewardship. We also had some bad experiences with broken toys by other children, hurt feelings on your part, and then going out and replacing them to make the situation right. <br><br>Perception is not always the reality of what really was or is going on. <br><br>I love YOU!!!!! <br><br>- Mom Hey Crista, just to let you know, that you did play with those dolls. You were very good with them! The reason that they were put up was because of many different reasons .

Not all of your little friends were good with dolls and some were destructive and maybe jealous. Sooooo we put them up to protect them. You played with them more than you remember. But not for long; you liked taking their clothes off but didn't like dressing them again. It was hard work for your little hands! You'd just walk off and leave them. Some of the dolls are in glass houses, not to keep them from you but to protect them from dust. Those little clothes are hard to wash and iron. Try ironing a little tiny weeny doll dress! I've done it, but it isn't easy.

You liked active play more than anything else. Doll play had a short time span, and blocks were more fun for you, along with our craft times. Also I babysat for 12 years so that I could be a stay at home Mom. Your father and I did not think it was a good idea that all of your toys were subject to who ever was in the house. We believed that you had some personal rights too, which you did have. Not all children are taught to take care of what they have been blessed with – good stewardship. We also had some bad experiences with broken toys by other children, hurt feelings on your part, and then going out and replacing them to make the situation right.

Perception is not always the reality of what really was or is going on.

I love YOU!!!!!

- Mom

]]> By: bellaziza http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/2009/10/12/what-i-learned-as-a-mommy-from-a-broken-doll/comment-page-1/#comment-28115 bellaziza Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:36:43 +0000 http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/?p=3848#comment-28115 Thanks Sarah! I'm so glad you liked the post! I literally posted it as soon as I wrote it... which was right after fixing the doll. FRESH!! <br><br>You're so right and I know people say it a lot but it's worth repeating every single time that they REALLY do grow up SO fast. Unbelievable. Camilla is already almost 9 months old and Isabella is over 3 1/2. wow. I must say that we're building great girls though... but I'm just their proud mama:)... what do I know?<br><br>:)C Thanks Sarah! I'm so glad you liked the post! I literally posted it as soon as I wrote it… which was right after fixing the doll. FRESH!!

You're so right and I know people say it a lot but it's worth repeating every single time that they REALLY do grow up SO fast. Unbelievable. Camilla is already almost 9 months old and Isabella is over 3 1/2. wow. I must say that we're building great girls though… but I'm just their proud mama:)… what do I know?

:) C

]]> By: bellaziza http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/2009/10/12/what-i-learned-as-a-mommy-from-a-broken-doll/comment-page-1/#comment-28114 bellaziza Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:32:26 +0000 http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/?p=3848#comment-28114 Lol! Yes Angela, I felt "woken up" for sure. Congrats on the freed dolls too!!! Go you!!! Don't you think that eBay's overrated anyway? It's so many fees with PayPal and all. So much more valuable to see her enjoying (and respecting ) it. Great life lessons. Much better than the $30 off of eBay, LOL! Lol! Yes Angela, I felt “woken up” for sure. Congrats on the freed dolls too!!! Go you!!! Don't you think that eBay's overrated anyway? It's so many fees with PayPal and all. So much more valuable to see her enjoying (and respecting ) it. Great life lessons. Much better than the $30 off of eBay, LOL!

]]> By: bellaziza http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/2009/10/12/what-i-learned-as-a-mommy-from-a-broken-doll/comment-page-1/#comment-28113 bellaziza Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:29:26 +0000 http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/?p=3848#comment-28113 Oh Missy! I love how you and your sweetie are friend-ish:)! Keep it up. I think it helps to raise strong women. You go girlfriend;)! Love ya! Oh Missy! I love how you and your sweetie are friend-ish:)! Keep it up. I think it helps to raise strong women. You go girlfriend;)! Love ya!

]]> By: bellaziza http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/2009/10/12/what-i-learned-as-a-mommy-from-a-broken-doll/comment-page-1/#comment-28112 bellaziza Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:28:11 +0000 http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/?p=3848#comment-28112 Hi Kristin! Yes, I do agree with you as it does seem that more and more children are having less and less respect for authority figures. That's really damaging not only to them as individuals, but to our society long-term. I can assure you that we're pretty careful about that, and she is a good girl... but I really do believe that being able to enjoy the friendship dynamic in our relationships as parent and child enhances what we've got. She's actually the one who started the "You're my best friend" thing... and it stuck:). I'm no pushover mama, as Isabella will attest to, hehe! I know she sees me a more than many people see their mommies though, and I'm ok with that. It may come with its own challenges, but at this point I'm happy to have them. Does that seem counterproductive or harmful to you?<br><br>Thanks so much for your thoughts! Hi Kristin! Yes, I do agree with you as it does seem that more and more children are having less and less respect for authority figures. That's really damaging not only to them as individuals, but to our society long-term. I can assure you that we're pretty careful about that, and she is a good girl… but I really do believe that being able to enjoy the friendship dynamic in our relationships as parent and child enhances what we've got. She's actually the one who started the “You're my best friend” thing… and it stuck:). I'm no pushover mama, as Isabella will attest to, hehe! I know she sees me a more than many people see their mommies though, and I'm ok with that. It may come with its own challenges, but at this point I'm happy to have them. Does that seem counterproductive or harmful to you?

Thanks so much for your thoughts!

]]> By: bellaziza http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/2009/10/12/what-i-learned-as-a-mommy-from-a-broken-doll/comment-page-1/#comment-28111 bellaziza Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:22:07 +0000 http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/?p=3848#comment-28111 Ooh wow! Yes, with your taste I'm SURE it's something really unique and truly fabulous! I want to see a picture now Naomi:)!! And yes, Parenting is a mellowing-out process for sure. :) Ooh wow! Yes, with your taste I'm SURE it's something really unique and truly fabulous! I want to see a picture now Naomi:)!! And yes, Parenting is a mellowing-out process for sure. :)

]]> By: Sarah Camp http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/2009/10/12/what-i-learned-as-a-mommy-from-a-broken-doll/comment-page-1/#comment-28106 Sarah Camp Tue, 13 Oct 2009 17:59:20 +0000 http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/?p=3848#comment-28106 Really great post, Crista. I think this is a really important point that a lot of people miss when parenting. Don't forget to let your kids be kids WHILE THEY ARE KIDS. :) They grow up fast enough as it is. You don't want them regretting that they never had a fun childhood. :) And what better way to help build a trust bond between yourself and your child? Really great post, Crista. I think this is a really important point that a lot of people miss when parenting. Don't forget to let your kids be kids WHILE THEY ARE KIDS. :) They grow up fast enough as it is. You don't want them regretting that they never had a fun childhood. :) And what better way to help build a trust bond between yourself and your child?

]]> By: Angela H. http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/2009/10/12/what-i-learned-as-a-mommy-from-a-broken-doll/comment-page-1/#comment-28105 Angela H. Tue, 13 Oct 2009 17:25:19 +0000 http://www.bellazizasfavorites.com/?p=3848#comment-28105 That's such a great post! Like you, I would've just told her she shouldn't have done what she did. I never ever thought that my daughter wouldn't come to me if she did something wrong. This has really made me rethink what I say to her and to be more understanding and to not get mad at the situation. Thanks for kind of slapping me upside the head to get me to wake up (not just about the dolls, but about my attitude when things get broken). Now it's off to free some dolls! Some Barbie dolls actually...I mean, really, aren't they meant to be played with? I think seeing the look on her face is worth more than selling them on Ebay. :) That's such a great post! Like you, I would've just told her she shouldn't have done what she did. I never ever thought that my daughter wouldn't come to me if she did something wrong. This has really made me rethink what I say to her and to be more understanding and to not get mad at the situation. Thanks for kind of slapping me upside the head to get me to wake up (not just about the dolls, but about my attitude when things get broken). Now it's off to free some dolls! Some Barbie dolls actually…I mean, really, aren't they meant to be played with? I think seeing the look on her face is worth more than selling them on Ebay. :)

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